My purpose is to give you tools to empower yourself and create an amazing life.

My purpose is to give you tools to empower yourself and create an amazing life.


About Me

Hello, my name is Spencer James and I’m here to help you make an unapologetically beautiful life! The world is full of people who want to trick, steal, cheat, and tear you down, but I am the furthest thing from those assholes. I want to celebrate you in every aspect of yourself.

I believe that you are beautiful and magnificent in your own, unique way and the world deserves to see it! If you don’t believe that, then just believe in me. Let my belief in your amazingness keep you going until you find it for yourself. 

I believe that healing happens in many different ways, not just from medicine. There are emotional, and spiritual illnesses that must be tended to and treated. When you take the time to focus on healing those pains your life will change in ways you can’t imagine. 

For the vast majority of my life I struggled with low self-esteem, and allowed myself to be a doormat for other people. I felt embarrassed and ashamed for being gay. I thought so little of myself that the only place I received validation was from other people. I acted how I thought they wanted, in hopes that it would get them to like me.

I was terrible with boundaries and practically allergic to the word ‘no’.

Living that way, I fell into drug addiction where any semblance of confidence and self worth I had was destroyed.

I lived that way for over 2 years and hated myself for almost every second. Eventually I got to a point where I was so emotionally destroyed I couldn’t keep going. I didn’t loose my job, or end up homeless, but one night I lost the last shred of love I had for myself.

I finally hit my rock bottom…

That night, I made a decision; I would never feel that way ever again, and would do whatever it took to change my life.

It was that one decision that started me on my journey to self discovery, love, and transformation.

It has by no means been easy. In fact some parts have been fucking miserable! But it has been the best thing I have ever done and I wouldn’t change a second of it.

Everything that I have gone through has shaped me into the man I am today, and today I love myself unconditionally.

I created this blog because I want to give you the tools to change your life the same way I have. Nothing brings me more joy than helping people empower themselves and create sustainable, lasting change.

All you need is commitment, honesty, open mindedness, and a willingness to try something new.

Commit to making a new life for yourself. Honestly accept who you are. Open your mind to seeing new perspectives. And be willing to try things outside of your comfort zone.

If you have decided you want to change your life, congratulations! I want to celebrate you and will support you every way that I can. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help in your journey. 

Thank you so much for taking the time to read, and I can’t wait to hear how you transform your life. 

All my love,
~Spencer James


To be responsible, keep your promises to others. To be successful, keep your promises to yourself.

~Marie Forleo